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If you’ve made peace with these 10 things by 70, you’ve mastered life’s hardest lessons

True peace comes from acceptance — if you’ve made peace with these 10 things by 70, you’ve mastered life’s most important lessons.

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True peace comes from acceptance — if you’ve made peace with these 10 things by 70, you’ve mastered life’s most important lessons.

Reaching 70 is no small feat.

By then, you’ve experienced decades of joy, heartbreak, mistakes, and triumphs — and hopefully, you’ve gained a perspective that only comes with time.

But true wisdom isn’t about knowing all the answers.

It’s about making peace with the things you can’t change and learning to carry life’s challenges with grace.

Here are 10 difficult truths that, once accepted, make life infinitely richer and more peaceful.

If you’ve found a way to embrace these lessons, you’ve truly mastered some of life’s hardest work.

1. Not everyone will like you — and that’s okay

When you’re younger, you spend so much energy trying to please everyone.

You adjust your words, your behavior, even your dreams, just to avoid conflict or gain approval.

By 70, you realize how exhausting — and unnecessary — that was.

Some people will love you, others won’t, and neither defines your worth.

Making peace with this truth frees you from chasing validation.

It allows you to show up authentically, without apology.

Because the people who truly matter will love you as you are, not as they wish you to be.

And that’s enough.

2. Time really does heal most wounds

In the thick of heartbreak or grief, it feels impossible to imagine ever feeling okay again.

But with the perspective of decades, you see how time softens even the sharpest pain.

It doesn’t erase what happened, but it changes how you carry it.

By 70, you’ve likely survived losses you once thought you couldn’t.

You’ve learned that healing isn’t about forgetting — it’s about learning to live alongside your memories.

The ache fades, the raw edges smooth, and life grows around the hurt.

Making peace with this truth gives you hope, even in difficult seasons.

3. Your body will change — and that’s natural

Aging is one of life’s most visible lessons.

No cream or treatment can completely stop the passage of time.

Wrinkles appear, joints ache, energy levels shift — and that’s part of being human.

When you’re younger, these changes can feel like losses.

By 70, you begin to see them differently: as proof of a life lived fully.

Every line on your face carries a story, every scar a chapter.

Accepting your body as it is, rather than fighting it, brings peace.

It allows you to focus on what your body can do, instead of mourning what it used to do.

4. Money isn’t the ultimate measure of success

When you’re working and raising a family, it’s easy to tie your self-worth to your bank account.

You measure success in promotions, houses, cars, or vacations.

But by 70, you’ve seen enough to know that money is just a tool, not a legacy.

It can make life easier, but it can’t buy health, love, or genuine happiness.

Some of the richest people are deeply unhappy.

Some of the happiest live with very little.

Peace comes from realizing that success is measured by relationships, purpose, and inner contentment — not just numbers on a screen.

5. You can’t control other people

One of life’s most frustrating lessons is that no matter how much you care, you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change.

You can guide, support, and encourage — but you can’t force.

By 70, you’ve likely learned this through children, partners, friends, or colleagues.

Trying to control others only leads to resentment for both sides.

Peace comes when you release that grip and focus on what you can control: your reactions, your boundaries, your choices.

Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring.

It means you care in a way that’s healthy for everyone involved.

6. Mistakes are part of growth

Regret can be heavy, especially when you replay decisions you wish you’d made differently.

But by 70, you’ve likely made peace with the idea that mistakes are inevitable — and essential.

They teach us humility, resilience, and compassion.

Without them, we wouldn’t learn who we are or what truly matters.

The key is to view mistakes as teachers, not lifelong punishments.

You take the lesson, forgive yourself, and move forward.

Because holding onto regret only keeps you stuck in the past.

Growth happens when you allow yourself to begin again.

7. Some relationships have an expiration date

Not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever.

Friends drift apart, romantic relationships end, even family ties sometimes loosen.

When you’re younger, you see this as failure.

By 70, you understand it’s simply part of life’s flow.

Some people are there for a season, to teach you something or walk beside you for a while.

Clinging to relationships long past their natural end only brings pain.

Making peace with this truth allows you to cherish the connections you have — without fear of loss.

It’s about gratitude, not grasping.

8. Forgiveness sets you free

Forgiveness is less about the other person and more about your own heart.

Holding onto anger or resentment feels powerful at first, but over time, it eats away at you.

By 70, you’ve likely learned that forgiveness doesn’t excuse bad behavior — it simply releases you from carrying it.

It’s a gift you give yourself.

Forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation.

Sometimes, it’s a private decision to let go of bitterness and move on.

The peace that follows is priceless.

And it’s one of the greatest acts of self-care you can practice.

9. Slowing down isn’t weakness

Our culture glorifies hustle, speed, and constant productivity.

But with age comes the realization that slowing down isn’t failure — it’s wisdom.

Life’s richest moments often happen in quiet pauses: sipping coffee on the porch, watching a sunset, holding a grandchild’s hand.

By 70, you’ve learned to savor instead of sprint.

This shift brings profound peace.

It teaches you that your worth isn’t tied to how much you do, but how fully you experience what you do.

Slowing down is a strength, not a flaw.

10. Happiness is built from the inside out

When you’re young, it’s easy to believe happiness comes from external things: the perfect job, house, partner, or trip.

By 70, you know better.

Lasting happiness comes from within — from gratitude, purpose, and inner peace.

External joys are wonderful, but they’re fleeting.

The true work is building a foundation of self-acceptance and perspective.

When you master this, you find contentment no matter what life throws at you.

And that’s the ultimate measure of a life well-lived.

Closing reflection: the beauty of acceptance

Life’s hardest lessons aren’t about struggle — they’re about surrender.

When you make peace with these truths, you stop fighting reality and start living fully in the present.

At 70, you understand that wisdom isn’t about controlling life, but about flowing with it.

It’s a quieter, deeper kind of strength.

And it’s the gift you carry forward to every year still to come.

 

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Avery White

Formerly a financial analyst, Avery translates complex research into clear, informative narratives. Her evidence-based approach provides readers with reliable insights, presented with clarity and warmth. Outside of work, Avery enjoys trail running, gardening, and volunteering at local farmers’ markets.

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