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9 things Boomers make for family dinners that no one actually likes but they keep making

From congealed casseroles to Jell-O molds that wobble with suspended fruit cocktail and cottage cheese, discover why younger generations are secretly stopping for takeout after enduring another family dinner of Boomer classics that taste like nostalgia but land like lead.

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From congealed casseroles to Jell-O molds that wobble with suspended fruit cocktail and cottage cheese, discover why younger generations are secretly stopping for takeout after enduring another family dinner of Boomer classics that taste like nostalgia but land like lead.

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Last Thanksgiving, I watched my sister-in-law proudly carry her famous green bean casserole to the table, the same one she's been making for forty years.

The crispy onions on top had gone soggy, the cream of mushroom soup had congealed into something resembling spackling paste, and I caught my grandson discreetly scraping it into his napkin when he thought no one was looking.

Yet there she stood, beaming with pride, completely oblivious to the collective internal groan that rippled through the younger generations at the table.

We Boomers have our culinary blind spots, don't we? After decades of making the same dishes that once earned us praise, we sometimes fail to notice that tastes have evolved, dietary needs have changed, and what was once considered fancy or delicious might now be met with polite smiles and untouched plates.

As someone who's been on both sides of this generational divide, I've come to recognize the patterns in what we stubbornly keep serving despite the evidence that perhaps we shouldn't.

1) The infamous green bean casserole

Is there a more polarizing dish at family gatherings?

This Campbell's soup creation from 1955 has somehow become mandatory at every holiday table, yet I've noticed the serving dish returns to the kitchen barely touched.

The combination of canned green beans, cream of mushroom soup, and french fried onions might have been revolutionary when convenience cooking was all the rage, but today's palates prefer fresh vegetables with their natural flavors intact.

Still, we make it because our mothers made it, and their mothers before them, as if breaking this chain would somehow dishonor the family legacy.

2) Jell-O salads with suspended mysteries

Nothing says "Boomer cuisine" quite like a molded Jell-O salad with fruit cocktail, mini marshmallows, and sometimes, inexplicably, shredded carrots or cottage cheese floating inside like specimens in amber.

At our weekly supper club, my friend still brings her mother's lime Jell-O creation with pineapple and mayo. We eat it out of loyalty, but I've noticed the younger members quietly passing it by.

There's something about the texture combination that modern eaters find unsettling, yet we persist in believing these wobbly monuments to mid-century innovation deserve a place at the table.

3) Overcooked vegetables swimming in butter

Remember when vegetables were supposed to be soft enough to cut with a fork?

We grew up believing that Brussels sprouts should be boiled until gray, that asparagus should bend like wet noodles, and that everything green needed at least a stick of butter to be palatable.

Meanwhile, our children and grandchildren have discovered the joy of roasted vegetables with a bit of crispness, the beauty of a barely blanched green bean, the sweetness that comes from caramelization rather than drowning in dairy.

Yet many of us still murder perfectly good produce in the name of tradition.

4) Casseroles with crushed potato chip toppings

If it's baked in a 9x13 pan and topped with crushed Ritz crackers or potato chips, we consider it a complete meal.

Tuna noodle casserole, chicken and rice bake, hamburger surprise; these one-dish wonders seemed like genius when we were raising families on a budget.

But have you watched your millennial children's faces when you announce you're making your famous potato chip chicken?

They're mentally calculating how many bites they need to take to be polite while secretly planning to stop for takeout on the way home.

5) Ambrosia salad and other marshmallow-laden "salads"

When did we collectively decide that adding marshmallows to fruit made it a salad?

The ambrosia that graced every church potluck and family reunion of our youth, with its mandarin oranges, coconut, marshmallows, and Cool Whip, bears no resemblance to what anyone under fifty considers salad.

My own grandchildren look at it with the kind of bewilderment usually reserved for abstract art.

"Is it dessert?" they ask hopefully.

When I tell them it's salad, they opt for the actual lettuce-based version instead.

6) Well-done meat with no seasoning except salt

Growing up, we learned that pork needed to be cooked until it resembled shoe leather to be safe, that beef should be gray throughout, and that the only acceptable seasonings were salt and maybe some pepper if we were feeling adventurous.

Our children, raised on Food Network and global cuisines, politely saw through steaks that could double as hockey pucks while dreaming of medium-rare with a proper sear.

They've tried to introduce us to meat thermometers and the concept of resting meat, but some of us still cook like we're trying to kill bacteria that died decades ago.

7) Heavy cream-based soups as a main course

Every Monday, I make soup from whatever needs using up, and I've learned to lighten my hand with the cream.

But many of my generation still serve cream of mushroom soup (not as an ingredient, but as an actual soup), cream of celery, or cream of anything as if it's a suitable dinner option.

These sodium bombs that coat your mouth like paint primer were pantry staples of our convenience-food era, but they leave modern diners feeling like they've consumed a bowl of warm glue.

8) Fruit suspended in mayonnaise-based "salads"

The Waldorf salad with its apples and mayo, the grape salad drowning in sour cream and brown sugar; these combinations that seemed sophisticated at 1970s dinner parties now inspire confusion and mild horror.

When I found my mother's old recipe box, half the "salad" cards involved mayo and fruit in combinations that would make a modern nutritionist weep.

9) Artificially flavored desserts from a box

Box cake with canned frosting, instant pudding with Cool Whip, desserts where the primary flavor is "artificial vanilla," well, we serve these with pride because they're what we knew.

However, our grandchildren, raised on artisan bakeries and from-scratch cooking shows, can taste the chemicals.

They want real butter, actual vanilla, chocolate that tastes like chocolate. My Sunday bread baking has taught me the difference fresh ingredients make, yet many of us still reach for the Duncan Hines out of habit or nostalgia.

Final thoughts

Here's what I've learned from observing these generational food battles: We're serving memories, like how that green bean casserole is about the first Thanksgiving in the new house, the year everyone was together, and the recipe card in Mom's handwriting.

Perhaps, it's time to create new memories with dishes our families actually enjoy eating. We can honor the past without forcing our loved ones to literally swallow it.

After all, the point of family dinner isn't the food itself but the gathering, the stories, the connections across generations.

Maybe next year, I'll ask my grandson to teach me to roast those Brussels sprouts he keeps talking about.

The tradition worth keeping is the love we're trying to express through the act of feeding our families.

Marlene Martin

Marlene is a retired high school English teacher and longtime writer who draws on decades of lived experience to explore personal development, relationships, resilience, and finding purpose in life’s second act. When she’s not at her laptop, she’s usually in the garden at dawn, baking Sunday bread, taking watercolor classes, playing piano, or volunteering at a local women’s shelter teaching life skills.

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