Original reporting
I'm 38 and have never said the words "I love you" out loud to anyone — not to a partner, not to my parents, not to the brother I'd take a bullet for — and the silence isn't because the feeling isn't there, it's because I grew up in a house where nobody ever said them either, and the words you weren't given as a child are the hardest words to learn how to give back as an adult
The words you weren't given as a child are the hardest words to learn how to give back as an adult, and I'm finding out, at thirty-eight, just how much harder than I had assumed
